Single in the City...Part 1

So a few days ago I got an invite to one of my really good friend's engagement party! I was sooo excited,as it's the first engagement party I'm attending...Like a rite of passage almost,that I switched mode into figuring out what outfit i was going to where,and then there it was,the reality I thought wouldn't face me at such a young age...Santilla plus one! The horror!! Let me set the record straight,my friend did no harm in addressing the invite that way,it's traditional,and besides,I'm never attached to anyone long enough to have their name on the invite instead of a plus one...It's hard enough for a girl to pick out shoes to go with an outfit,let alone a Mr. Right now...Anyway,it had me thinking about how,when everything is going so well in your life,people seem to view it as insuffiecient when you lack a partner by your side!

And it's not just a twenty-something thing...no no! Pick up a tabloid and headlines like 'Why can't Jen find love' or 'will she ever find true love?'...and we can't help but feel sorry for these people,because irrespective of how much success they achieve,it all amounts to nothing when Mr. Right now is not by your side to share it with you? Don't get me wrong,I'm all for the great romance that give you Carrie Bradshaw style Zsa Zsa Zsu...but why should I settle to settle?

I'm at a stage in my life when everything is the way I want it to be,and I love it! I make conciuos decisions to date but not commit unless I get the Zsa Zsa Zsu's! One of my closest girlfriends recently had an outburst about my choices regarding men in my life and how she feels I dispose of them and in her eyes,I'm constantly searching for Mr. Right Now? She may be right,but can't a girl have a salad without the dressing sometimes?! It's just hard trying to justify the choices we make without being judged or labelled as a slut,whore or the like...but on the otherhand,a guy my age doing the sae thing and focusing on his career and isn't ready to settle for anything less is given a pat on the back and a round of drnks at the local pub! Where is the justice!! If I choose and conciuosly to 'date' a guy who I like minus the Zsa Zsa Zsu's..and only see it as a temp thing,what's wrong with that? Why can't I?

I feel lie in this day and age,I can make my own choices...My grandmother got married at 13...she had no choice,it was expected of her in those days...I am not obligated to be attached to someone,and heck if I did,I would be...It's not hard getting into a relationship,what's hard is getting into the right relationship. So ladies,when you're sitting at home on a friday night with your hands in cotton mitts,wearing your worn out sweats and watching an old movie and eating last night's takeout,don't think of it as pathetic...embrace it! Be proud of the successes you have achieved and continue to achieve,and any man who is right for you,will embrace that about you...Miss Independent! And don't settle for anything less...than Zsa Zsa Zsu!!